Thursday, February 23, 2012

An Update of Sorts

I haven't posted in almost a month because honestly, I don't have much news. Things are the same. The new doctor was nice enough and I have no bad news to report from tests and such. Thanks for asking though BC.

Well, ok, there is something that is irking me. Hubby's youngest son is getting married. It's not the marriage that is irking me, although I am one of those people who believes in folks waiting until their life is on track before taking that leap. He and his fiance are young. Too young in my opinion but they've been together through high school and initially were going to wait even longer (he's only 19 and she's just about 18) but they have their parents blessing. So what irks me is they are getting married on hubby and my anniversary! Not their fault. Hubby and the sister wives forgot. Then the plan was made and there was no turning back. Honestly, I don't know how they could have forgotten because anniversaries were always a big deal in our house. Perhaps they just didn't think I would care. In any event, it irks me.

I don't think I've ever mentioned this but this young couple, again with both sets of parents agreeing, are living in my room at the moment, until they get a place of their own which could be god only knows when. Now what bothers me about this besides the obvious things, is that supposedly (and I hope so) my "things" were packed up and put away safely. I guess I'm feeling frustrated at the moment. I just hope and pray that my personal belongings aren't "lost" in a storage shed somewhere. Or worse, still in the room being used by everyone, or should I say "broken." A trip down there isn't feasible at the moment I'm sorry to say.

To add icing to this "delightful" cake, my family here has turned against hubby and the whole plural marriage thing. I think another fall out from my illness has been that my family, kids, sisters, etc. wants me to be near them more than they did. When I first moved across the country for a new life, though skeptical about polygamy (once they knew about it), they were at least glad for me that I felt I had found happiness. It was hard not to notice at the time how changed for the better I was after meeting hubby. Someone commented once that it was as if I had come back to life. I looked younger, happier, prettier, and was definitely more actively engaged in the world at large instead of just my "career."

Anyway, that's it for today. I will try to post more frequently.


Just Sakinah said...

My heart goes out to you. I will pray for you.

Border Collie said...

I'm so sorry for your troubles. Obviously the couple are not ready for marriage, just living together. They aren't a problem for the other sister wives because there is no competition for a man. It is those two alone. But they have displayed you physically.

We could go on about this a lot. And your family has rethought their feelings based on the situation and your happiness. Family, blood family, is always yours, so they say.

Ron is on a respirator now and suffering and I would ask for a prayer or two to alleviate his suffering. I am very upset and nervous and shaking because I can do nothing but hope for the best. Baring that, it would be great if he had adequate pain meds and was knocked out, but he is neither adequately medicated nor sedated because that could depress breathing even more. Please father in heaven have mercy.

new#3 said...

Thank you JS. Dear BC, I will keep your husband in my prayers - and you as well.

Older and Weiser said...

Oh my. You are being much more gracious then I am. I would be furious that I was being "displaced" so matter-of-factly. And on your anniversary, no less! That is just plain insensitive, and just supports your observation that the others just do not take you into consideration. "Irks" seems to mild--it is not my situation, but I got really mad when I read this post! Grrrrrrrrrrrr!

They don't deserve you--and you deserve better. Just my two cents.