Thursday, May 10, 2012

A good day for America and for us


I don't know if any of you are for or against gay marriage. It doesn't really matter to me because I truly believe that we are all entitled to our different opinions. I just happen to agree with Clint Eastwood,over 50% of our citizens including Dick Cheney, and the President of the United States. After all, as Robin Williams has joked, why shouldn't gay people have the same right to be miserable as the rest of us!

All joking aside, yesterday was a good day for our country and for polygamists if you think about it. We are one more step, however small or large, to our neighbors accepting different marital lifestyles as the norm. That's an excellent thing.

NTPW posted recently about a colleague seeing her husband and his other wife out to dinner. This is an awkward moment for a professional woman, should I explain or not? No, I'll just brush over it...no, it's no one's business really, etc. etc. etc. Truth is it would be nice not to have to even think about it. Truth is, the family I (new#3)was born in to have never really accepted it. At first they expressed surprise and shock, then grudging acceptance that soon faded away the very second I expressed any concern, unhappiness or doubt.

For me the whole issue of gay marriage is one of liberty and equality. I have gay friends who have been praying for acceptance of gay marriage for years. I'm not sure I totally emphasized with them until I entered in to a plural marriage. To this day I don't talk about my marriage to certain people and don't mention it at all in social situations unless I am with hubby and he brings it up first. That has happened occasionally especially in the beginning when we would be on vacation surrounded by strangers...I was often surprised at the reaction...rarely did anyone care or say anything negative. Usually there would be a lot of curiosity. Which was fine.

So really, what's the big deal about gay marriage? I don't know but unfortunately several of my more conservative friends have expressed outrage which makes me sad. For some it's just another thing to hold against the President. Well, like him or not. Agree with his administration's policies or not. I admire his courage. And I'm happy for my gay friends.

2 comments:

Older and Weiser said...

Amen! A step in the right direction, for sure.

Border Collie said...

I think the problem may be that many states have civil commitment and that seems to work well. Civil ceremonies seem to work well. When it is called marriage it seems to be entering into the realm of religion and there seems to be fear, some justified, that demands will be made for all churches to perform the weddings. I think people are tired of all the battles. The lawsuits and demands are tiresome after awhile. I don't care. I don't know anybody who does care, except for the "who is required to perform the ceremony" aspect. I have worked I believe with as many or more gay people as straight. I don't have issues. They are my friends or not because of something other than their sexuality. There are so many things that are so much more important in my life, in the good of the country and the world. Anyway, that's my response.
Hope you are doing well.